Now, I Understand Still struggling with the concept? Hang in there with us! *Here’s one more example from our experience:This past summer we vacationed with a number of my family members. We had a fantastic time, but often I ended up with the job of being in charge—finding out what everyone wanted to do, where we’d go, how we would …
Sex. Or Not. Part One
Part 1 2.21.2019 We were driving to a couples’ retreat center in Fairhaven, Tennessee, for some serious work on our marriage. The number one issue: Our broken sex life. Two weeks before, I’d summoned all my courage to tell Craig we needed a total break from sex until we’d worked out what was the core issue. In the previous months, …
Sex. The Background. The Crash. Part Two
3.7.2019 Craig comes from a family of origin that was very open about sex. Because of his parents’ frankness, he gleaned that sex could be a healthy and enjoyable part of marriage. And because there was no obvious hiding or embarrassment associated with his parents’ sex life, Craig never cast it as something to keep hidden or secret and therefore …
Sex. The Healing Begins. Part Three
3.21.2019 After a meal eaten in pretty much total silence, we moved to the living room to do the one thing we’d both agreed on when we booked this trip: Read Cliff and Joyce Penner’s The Gift of Sex, out loud. Even then we were short with each other concerning who would read first, what chapters to read, and how we …
Sex. Bonus Addition: An Interview with Craig
3.21.2019 I thought it might prove helpful to you all if I interviewed Craig—capturing his perspective—regarding the story I shared in the last three newsletters. Let’s see if I can entice him to open up a bit… First Question: What’s your name, rank, and serial number? Craig Williford; The Best Husband in the World; 10 out of 10 2. Do …
Don’t Make that Noise…and for Goodness’ Sake, Don’t Tell the Kids
For this sixty-something woman, there are two “don’ts” that currently dominate my life. The first is “Don’t make that noise.” See, here’s my theory: When you first start emitting those little grunts, groans, and sighs when you get out of a car or move from one position to another or stand up from a chair—don’t get smart, twenty-somethings; someday you’ll …
The Word That Strikes Fear in the Hearts of Men, Part One
1.17.2019 We were close friends—five men and five women— standing in a kitchen enjoying each other’s company. The conversation was light, humorous and free flowing. Then suddenly the topic of intimacy entered our conversation. Within sixty seconds, every man fled from the kitchen to another location in the house, abandoning their wives. What is it about the word intimacy that strikes fear in the …
The Word That Strikes Fear in the Hearts of Men, Part 2
2.7.2019 From Craig’s desk…. Intimacy can be defined by three C’s: Closeness: The ability to let down your inner barriers and allow someone else to see you as you are. When you feel close to another person, you don’t mind if that person sees you without your normal defenses—psychological and otherwise. You feel safe with that person because you know that he …
So Who’s in Charge?
1.3.2019 So a conversation I overheard in the locker room this morning sounded all too familiar, and it went something like this: “Get your Christmas decorations put away?” “No, not yet. Not looking forward to that, either. It’s so much work!” “Is [insert your husband’s name here] able to help?” “Well…yes and no. You know how that goes.” Chuckles …
Just Questions
Just Questions 12.20.2018 Many have asked us, “How do you get so much out of a vacation time away?” Or we hear, “Why do you enjoy long car trips so much?” Simple answer: Because for years we’ve had a pro-active approach to our marriage and the opportunities that times like that offer. Specifically *We can ignore the possibilities, allowing each …