NOTE TO ALL COUPLES: Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day – whoo-hoo! I assume you’ve wisely planned ahead and bought cards and/or flowers, chocolates, or even some sort of special gift. Hopefully you’re sharing a special meal together too, whether that’s out at a restaurant or in the privacy of your own home. (“Privacy” needing to be in quotes, since that’s possibly with a kid or two or more – we’re not that far removed from those days!!) Wherever you are, however the day is celebrated, you’ll most likely plop down (worn out from a busy day), take a deep breath (an attempt to gather some energy to give your partner), and look into each other’s eyes….
…and go blank?!
That’s a very real possibility in today’s frantically busy world! So, to help you be intentional and make the most of this “mushy but possibly substance-lacking” holiday, here are some suggested questions to ask your spouse. Write them on a small cheat-sheet if you need to. Just get them there with you, wherever you are.
Trust me. She/he will be delighted with your ingenuity, your planning ahead, your focus on her or him. Here’s ten to get you started, ladies and gents; add more of your own as creativity strikes…
- What was it about you that initially attracted me?
- What do I still find very attractive about you?
- What’s one of my favorite first memories of us together?
- When was the first moment I realized you were the one?
- What’s one important thing that I want us to do, as a couple, in the future?
- What do I do that most shows you I love you?
- What’s your favorite memory of us together?
- What are some times that we’ve laughed the hardest?
- What are our memories of our honeymoon?
- Has being with me helped you discover yourself more? How?
